It has been 10 years since I lost my Dad to cancer. Something I have never once wanted to say. The morning he breathed his last was both the sweetest of relief and the crushing agony of loss.
I used to be so terrified of death and even dead bodies. That ended at 4:20am on April 5th, 2013 as I sat on the floor and held what I could of my brother who laid across our Dad and wept for 3 solid hours.
The importance of not calling the funeral home right away cannot be overstated. We took our time with Dad. When I tell you that it was jarring to watch him be rolled out of the house into the van, believe me.
Think of your going home for a few days as the "deep breath before the plunge" as Gandalf said in Return of the King.
My heart is with you all as you navigate this, which if I am being honest, you are doing so, brilliantly.
This could not be more true. My dad passed from cancer on 8/29/07, and the mix of deepest opposing emotions were overwhelming, and also freeing. My brother also wept in a way he never had before or since. And I can still see the tracks of the funeral home gurney that wheeled his body across the front yard to the waiting van. It's a horrible club to be in, but it is also comforting to know other humans have experienced something similar. Xoxo
❤️
It has been 10 years since I lost my Dad to cancer. Something I have never once wanted to say. The morning he breathed his last was both the sweetest of relief and the crushing agony of loss.
I used to be so terrified of death and even dead bodies. That ended at 4:20am on April 5th, 2013 as I sat on the floor and held what I could of my brother who laid across our Dad and wept for 3 solid hours.
The importance of not calling the funeral home right away cannot be overstated. We took our time with Dad. When I tell you that it was jarring to watch him be rolled out of the house into the van, believe me.
Think of your going home for a few days as the "deep breath before the plunge" as Gandalf said in Return of the King.
My heart is with you all as you navigate this, which if I am being honest, you are doing so, brilliantly.
Beautifully said. I’ll cherish your sage advice. Thank you for this 🙏🙏
This could not be more true. My dad passed from cancer on 8/29/07, and the mix of deepest opposing emotions were overwhelming, and also freeing. My brother also wept in a way he never had before or since. And I can still see the tracks of the funeral home gurney that wheeled his body across the front yard to the waiting van. It's a horrible club to be in, but it is also comforting to know other humans have experienced something similar. Xoxo
❤️❤️
Sending you comfort 🫂